[form] Name[text,r_name,30] Email [text,r_email,30] =============================================== Reframe Strategy Suggestions SUPPLIER PAST or FUTURE STRATEGIES 5. CONTROL - whose responsible or to blame for how I feel: As the upset Supplier, change roles and be the Consumer. What can you ask, or not ask, from the other person to resolve your upset? [textarea,as consumer I could ask for,3,70] Describe who is responsible for what and why. [textarea,the blame-control,3,70] Here are some suggestions to use. Please work through each one, and discuss what parts of them will work and what will not with an explanation as to why. THEN at the end write up your personal plan to help make your quadrant a parallel one which shows your expectation is going to be met. Suggestions: * Don't try to control the other person's feelings. The issue is one of power. If your intentions are to control the outcome of the situation, you are mistaking the use of force for power. Your real power lies in allowing the other person to appreciate and benefit from what you have to offer and to accept what he or she has to offer you. [textarea,suggestion01,3,70] * Don't let the other person push your "hot buttons". Respond to the issue, not out of your own emotional habit. Make your behaviour an action that comes from within you, not a reaction to an outside force or stimulus. [textarea,suggestion02,3,70] Having discussed each strategy, In general what will you now plan to do? [textarea,My plan is,3,70] ===================================================== IF you are STUCK try the Catch 22 suggestions by clicking here ================================================== Please share with me anything else you feel I need to know to understand you and your experience [textarea,comments,3,70,Write in here...] [checkbox,send copy] SEND ME A COPY PLEASE [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again] [/form]