[form] Name[text,r_name,30] Email [text,r_email,30] =============================================== Reframe Strategy Suggestions CONSUMER PAST or FUTURE STRATEGIES 6. SETTING OF PRIORITIES: ASK What exactly is this PRIORITY I am expecting from the supplier in terms of initiating change or reinforcing no change in the order of things happening? [textarea,priority is,2,70] ASK: "Why is this IMPORTANT to me?" (What truths, principles, beliefs or values are strong for you with this?) [text,important because,80] ASK: "HOW URGENT is it to me?" (When do I expect satisfaction?) [text,urgent because,80] NOW as the upset Consumer, change roles and be the Supplier and ASK "What can I say YES to supplying in terms of initiating change or reinforcing no change?" [text,say yes to supplying,80] "What can I say NO to supplying in terms of initiating change or reinforcing no change?" [text,say no to supplying,80] SO THAT I get the PRIORITY initiative I can live with? THEN ASK Which other of the Seven Expectations on my chart help or hinder me getting the PRIORITISATION of actions I can live with? [textarea,other influences,2,70] ============================================== Here are some suggestions to use. Please work through each one, and discuss what parts of them will work and what will not with an explanation as to why. THEN at the end write up your personal plan to help make your quadrant a parallel one which shows your expectation is going to be met. Suggestions: * Operate on your schedule and set the priorities. Don't let the other person disrupt your timetable. [textarea,suggestion01,3,70] * Realise that you may have given up control of some portion of your life and the other person may get upset when you try to take it back. Ultimately you may find it healthier to end the relationship. [textarea,suggestion02,3,70] * If the other person wants something at an inconvenient time for you, say so! Express it as, "The timing won't work for me." Pick a time that works for both of you. [textarea,suggestion03,3,70] Having discussed each strategy, In general what will you now plan to do? [textarea,My plan is,3,70] ===================================================== IF you are STUCK try the Catch 22 suggestions by clicking here ================================================== Please share with me anything else you feel I need to know to understand you and your experience of Depression? [textarea,comments,3,70,Write in here...] [checkbox,send copy] SEND ME A COPY PLEASE [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again] [/form]