[form] Name[text,r_name,30] Email [text,r_email,30] =============================================== Reframe Strategy Suggestions CONSUMER PAST or FUTURE STRATEGIES 4. BEING UNDERSTOOD-ACCEPTED: ASK What exactly is the UNDERSTANDING I am expecting from the supplier? [textarea,UNDERSTANDING is,2,70] ASK: "Why is this IMPORTANT to me?" (What truths, principles, beliefs or values are support your expectation with this?) [textarea,important because,2,70] ASK: "HOW URGENT is it to me?" (HOW SOON must I Have Satisfaction?) [textarea,urgent because,2,70] NOW as the upset Consumer, CHANGE ROLES and be the Supplier and ASK "What can I say YES to supplying self, other, or situation to get the UNDERSTANDING I want?" [text,say yes to supplying,80] "What can I say NO to supplying self, other(s) person or situation to get the UNDERSTANDING I want?" [text,say no to supplying,80] NOW ASK Which other of the Seven Expectations on my chart help or hinder me getting the UNDERSTANDING I can live with? [textarea,other influences,2,70] ============================================== Here are some suggestions to use. Please work through each one, and discuss what parts of them will work and what will not with an explanation as to why. THEN at the end write up your personal plan to help make your quadrant a parallel one which shows your expectation is going to be met. Suggestions: * Tell the other person how you wish to be treated if you are being treated in a way you don't like. If the other person doesn't respond to your wishes, recognise that he or she has a problem -- not you! [textarea,suggestion01,3,70] * When you are confronted with unacceptable treatment or behaviour, respond with how you feel about it. If you attack, the other person will get upset and counter-attack. This only aggravates and perpetuates the upset. [textarea,suggestion02,3,70] * Recognise that the other person will treat you as he or she wants to, unless you express yourself. Listen very carefully to what the other person is saying. If you are satisfied, let the other person know how much you appreciate his or her understanding. If you're not satisfied, you need to make changes in the relationship. [textarea,suggestion03,3,70] Having discussed each strategy, In general what will you now plan to do? [textarea,My plan is,3,70] ===================================================== IF you are STUCK try the Catch 22 suggestions by clicking here ================================================== Please share with me anything else you feel I need to know to understand you and your experience of Depression? [textarea,comments,3,70,Write in here...] [checkbox,send copy] SEND ME A COPY PLEASE [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again] [/form]