[form] Name[text,r_name,30] Email [text,r_email,30] =============================================== Reframe Strategy Suggestions CONSUMER PAST or FUTURE STRATEGIES 3. EXPLORING ALTERNATIVES: ASK What exactly is the ALTERNATIVES I am expecting from the supplier? [textarea,ALTERNATIVES is,2,70] ASK: "Why is this IMPORTANT to me?" (What truths, principles, beliefs or values are support your expectation with this?) [textarea,important because,2,70] ASK: "HOW URGENT is it to me?" (HOW SOON must I Have Satisfaction?) [textarea,urgent because,2,70] NOW as the upset Consumer, CHANGE ROLES and be the Supplier and ASK "What can I say YES to supplying self, other, or situation to get the ALTERNATIVES I want?" [text,say yes to supplying,80] "What can I say NO to supplying self, other(s) person or situation to get the ALTERNATIVES I want?" [text,say no to supplying,80] NOW ASK Which other of the Seven Expectations on my chart help or hinder me getting the ALTERNATIVES I can live with? [textarea,other influences,2,70] ============================================== Here are some suggestions to use. Please work through each one, and discuss what parts of them will work and what will not with an explanation as to why. THEN at the end write up your personal plan to help make your quadrant a parallel one which shows your expectation is going to be met. Suggestions: * You make the suggestions and offer alternatives that will work for you. Look for ways that will satisfy both you and the other person. Supply what is needed to make it work! [textarea,suggestion01,3,70] * If the other person doesn't come forward with a willingness to help solve the problem, forget it, it isn't important enough to the other person. If it is to you -- express it! [textarea,suggestion02,3,70] * If you don't get satisfaction, forget it, you're wasting your time. Find someone willing to work with you, not against you. [textarea,suggestion03,3,70] * Providing alternatives is a way to negotiate -- anything! It is also the way to reduce the heat of a confrontation. Emotions often get in the way of solving the problem. Establish your limits -- the point beyond which you will not negotiate. [textarea,suggestion04,3,70] * If you are emotionally attached to your point of view, you will take an uncompromising position, even if you think you are being objective and rational. [textarea,suggestion05,3,70] * Don't accept or reject whatever is offered to you unless you really want to. If you are unable to decide among a set of alternatives that are presented to you, you are showing an unwillingness to live with the consequences of your choice. Get in touch with your feelings. Flip a coin! Choose. When it lands, are you happy with the result? If so, go with it. Wish it had flipped differently? If so, go with the other choice! [textarea,suggestion06,3,70] * Present alternatives of your own. Take another look at what the real issue is in this situation. [textarea,suggestion07,3,70] Having discussed each strategy, In general what will you now plan to do? [textarea,My plan is,3,70] ===================================================== IF you are STUCK try the Catch 22 suggestions by clicking here ================================================== Please share with me anything else you feel I need to know to understand you and your experience of Depression? [textarea,comments,3,70,Write in here...] [checkbox,send copy] SEND ME A COPY PLEASE [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again] [/form]