[form] Name[text,r_name,30] Email [text,r_email,30] SHAME Alternatives From Shame to REGRET WHEN [checkbox,Something shameful has been revealed about me] Something shameful has been revealed about me [checkbox,(Likewise) has been revealed about the people-group I belong to] (Likewise) has been revealed about the people-group I belong to [checkbox,Others look down on me - shun me] Others look down on me - shun me [checkbox,Others look down on the group I belong (hang out with) to] Others look down on the group I belong (hang out with) to [text,when186,80] [text,when187,80] [text,when188,80] I RESPOND BY [checkbox,I do not save face by attacking other(s) who have shamed me] I do not save face by attacking other(s) who have shamed me [checkbox,I act to accept myself in unconditional ways but aim my critique at my behaviour] I act to accept myself in unconditional ways but aim my critique at my behaviour [text,respond193,80] [text,respond194,80] [text,respond195,80] BECAUSE [checkbox,I view the information as revealed in a compassionate self-accepting context ] I view the information as revealed in a compassionate self-accepting context [checkbox,I am realistic about the likelihood that the judging group will notice or be interested in the information] I am realistic about the likelihood that the judging group will notice or be interested in the information [checkbox,I am realistic about the degree of disapproval self (or reference group) will receive] I am realistic about the degree of disapproval self (or reference group) will receive [checkbox,I am realistic about the length of time any disapproval will last] I am realistic about the length of time any disapproval will last [checkbox,I continue to actively participate in social interaction with others] I continue to actively participate in social interaction with others [checkbox,I respond to attempts of others to restore social equilibrium] I respond to attempts of others to restore social equilibrium [text,because204,80] [text,because205,80] [text,because206,80] Please share with me anything else you feel I need to know to understand you and your experience of Hurt? [textarea,comments,3,70,Write in here...] [checkbox,send copy] SEND ME A COPY PLEASE [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again] [/form]