[form] "REBT Theory Lesson 09" Your Name please: [text,r_name,30] Email: [text,r_email,30] ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Feelings and Behaviour As you learned, point C stands for feelings and behaviours (and sometimes other thoughts) that result from the way we think about point A. Feelings or emotions You react emotionally to your experiences, real and imagined. People often don’t know what they are feeling and have a hard time giving their feelings a name. No feeling is illegitimate, but some are more appropriate or self-helping – that is, they help you better achieve your Goals (G). Here are some common feeling-words. Read these words so that you can improve your feeling vocabulary. Mad peaceful anxious appreciative Down worried frightened infuriated Guilty empty disgusted dismal Hateful lonely resentful cheerful Hurt unity malicious afraid Sad insecure humiliated accepting Calm furious serene horrified Timid irate scared shocked Loving depressed ambitious pleased Shaky horrified dejected repulsed Jealous satisfied ashamed enjoy Happy whole excited apprehensive Lost forsaken glad uncomfortable You can experience a variety of emotions, and you can learn to direct and guide your emotional experience so that you eliminate most of your unnecessary suffering. The first step is identifying and admitting what you are feeling. Behaving Just as feeling is one way you respond to your situation, behaving is another way. Behaviour describes what you are doing or how you are acting. Look at the following words that describe behaviour. The list may help you to find some words that describe your actions and help you to increase your vocabulary about behaviour. Avoiding hitting arguing talking Withdrawing yelling sulking crying Screaming aggressive sleeping eating Drinking driving complaining. REBT holds strongly that you can learn to change your self-defeating, addictive, or other undesirable behaviours by changing the way you talk to yourself or think. You can learn new behaviour. But REBT also holds strongly that you can always accept yourself, no matter how poor your behaviour may be. You always have the philosophical choice of accepting or not accepting yourself – yes, under all conditions – no matter how you behave. No, not always accepting what you do. Yes, always accepting you, the doer. ============================================================== Assignment 09 Please list feelings you identify as common to your experience of Upsetting feelings. [textarea,feelings I know,3,70] Please list behaviours you identify with as common to your experience of unhelpful personal behaviours. [textarea,behaviours I know,3,70] Note that feelings and behaviours are often linked to a setting, situation, issue or context where the beliefs about that situation etc. are triggered ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Questions or Comments? [textarea,questions or comments,3,70] [checkbox,send copy,checked] To receive a copy of your work here. Uncheck it if you have printed off a hardcopy for yourself. [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again]