[form] REFRAME brief Relationship Profile - Responder or Giver (Supplier) this form is for you to select one choice from each of seven pairs in seven areas of you relate to an 'other'( or other unit or group of people) in terms of how you expect to respond or give and whether that expectation is satisfied. Look at the two choices in each expecting area, and then Choose the one which is more often true of your responses. The first list is about you choosing how it is you want to respond or give or demonstrate to the other person or persons. AFTER working through the first set, where you select how you WANT to or EXPECT to respond, The second set are about how you are able to actually respond. When you've finished you will have worked on what you want, and then what actually happens. You can make a brief comment under your selection to help understanding. Your Name please: [text,r_name,30] Email: [text,r_email,30] To UNDERSTAND what the terms mean CLICK HERE to open a separate window which will explain each of the issues. WHO is this other person or persons? [text,other persons,80] In the NEXT SEVEN issues, select which of the two choices in each, that describe how you really want to respond. I WANT to BE.... Feel free to comment underneath to explain your choices 1. RESPONDING [radio,responding01,spontaneously,checked]Spontaneously [radio,responding01,Predictably]Predictably [text,responding03,70] 2. AGREEING [radio,agreeing01,changing agreements,checked]Changing our Agreements [radio,agreeing01,keeping agreements]Keeping our Agreements [text,agreeing03,70] 3. NEGOTIATING [radio,negotiating01,open to alternatives,checked]Being Open to alternatives [radio,negotiating01,closed to alternatives]Being Closed to alternatives [text,negotiating03,70] 4. UNDERSTANDING [radio,understanding01,being objectivity,checked]Being objectivite [radio,understanding01,being understanding]Being understanding [text,understanding03,70] 5. BEING RESPONSIBLE or TAKING CHARGE [radio,responsibility01,controlling,checked]Being in charge or controlling [radio,responsibility01,not controlling]Not being in Control [text,responsibility03,70] 6. INITIATING or Ordering things [radio,initiating01,initiating,checked]Being Initiating [radio,initiating01,not initiating]Being Not initiating [text,initiating03,70] 7. GIVING FEEDBACK [radio,feedback01,giving feedback,checked]Giving feedback [radio,feedback01,not giving feedback]Not giving feedback [text,feedback03,70] NOW your set of choices are for you to indicate what actually you get to give now in terms of your prefered needs. I AM ACTUALLY ... 1. RESPONDING [radio,responding02,spontaneously,checked]Being Spontaneous [radio,responding02,Predictably]Being Predictable [text,responding04,70] 2. AGREEING [radio,agreeing02,changing agreements,checked]Changing Agreements [radio,agreeing02,keeping agreements]Keeping Agreements [text,agreeing04,70] 3. NEGOTIATING [radio,negotiating02,open to alternatives,checked]Open to alternatives [radio,negotiating02,closed to alternatives]Closed to alternatives [text,negotiating04,70] 4. UNDERSTANDING [radio,understanding02,being objective,checked]Being objective [radio,understanding02,being understanding]Being understanding [text,understanding04,70] 5. BEING RESPONSIBLE or TAKING CHARGE [radio,responsibility02,controlling,checked]Being in control or taking charge [radio,responsibility02,not controlling]Not being in Control or taking charge [text,responsibility04,70] 6. INITIATING or Ordering things [radio,initiating02,initiating,checked]Being initiating [radio,initiating02,not initiating]Not being initiating [text,initiating04,70] 7. GIVING FEEDBACK [radio,feedback02,giving feedback,checked]Giving feedback [radio,feedback02,not giving feedback]Not be giving feedback [text,feedback04,70] After your work is done, the counsellor will respond and discuss with you choices that are open to you to help you get more of what you need, and to give your friend, partner, spouse more of what they feel they need where possible. Do you have any questions or comments you wish to make? Want to share what you're hoping will be the outcome of this work? [textarea,questions or comments,3,70] [checkbox,send copy,checked] TO DO your next steps you'll need to receive a copy of your work here. Uncheck it if you have printed off a hardcopy for yourself. [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again] [/form]