[form] Your Name please: [text,r_name,30] Email: [text,r_email,30] This is a profile of the types of self-talk you engage in. [radio,self,general assessement,checked]This is a GENERAL assessment of your self-talk [radio,self,specific assessment]This is a SPECIFIC assessment of my self talk in relation to an issue I seek counsel for What is the specific issue? [textarea,specific issue,3,70] REBT posits that there are THREE main upsetting beliefs or thoughts in life from which there are a family of sub-beliefs. Below please indicate which of these sub- beliefs are present in your thoughts or self-talk in relation to the general picture of your life and thinking, or in relation to the specific situation you've described. FIRST clue area Sub-Beliefs [checkbox,1 I must have love and approval from everybody.]1. I must have love and approval from everybody. __[checkbox,1a I need someone to love me.] a. I need someone to love me. __[checkbox,1b I must not do anything that would cause others to think less of me.] b. I must not do anything that would cause others to think less of me. [checkbox,2 I must be competent and successful.]2. I must be competent and successful. __[checkbox,2a I must have an important skill or talent.] a. I must have an important skill or talent. [checkbox,3 I must successfully avoid unpleasant or undesirable situations.]3. I must successfully avoid unpleasant or undesirable situations. __[checkbox,3a Unpleasant and undesirable situations upset me.] a. Unpleasant and undesirable situations upset me. ____[checkbox,3ai I can't control my emotions in difficult situations.] i. I can't control my emotions in difficult situations. [checkbox,4. I must avoid dangerous or life-threatening situations.]4. I must avoid dangerous or life-threatening situations. __[checkbox,4a. If I do encounter such situations I must worry about them to make them go away.] a. If I do encounter such situations, I must worry about them to make them go away. [checkbox,5. I must think feel and act the same as I always have.]5. I must think, feel and act the same as I always have. __[checkbox,5a. My past has such a strong influence on me that I cannot change.] a. My past has such a strong influence on me that I cannot change. [checkbox,6. I must find order certainty and predictability in life.] 6. I must find order, certainty, and predictability in life. __[checkbox,6a. If I don't find these things I cannot feel comfortable or act competently.] a. If I don't find these things, I cannot feel comfortable or act competently. [checkbox,7. I must depend on other people because I can't depend on myself.] 7. I must depend on other people because I can't depend on myself. __[checkbox,7a. I must rely on superstition and religion especially in difficult times.] a. I must rely on superstition and religion especially in difficult times. [checkbox,8. I must understand the secrets of the universe.] 8. I must understand the secrets of the universe. __[checkbox,8a. I cannot be happy unless I understand the nature and secrets of the universe.] a. I cannot be happy unless I understand the nature and secrets of the universe. [checkbox,9. I must rate myself as either "good" and "worthy" or "bad" and "worthless."] 9. I must rate myself as either "good" and "worthy," or "bad" and "worthless." __[checkbox,9a.To be good and worthy I must be competent successful and popular.] a. To be "good," and "worthy," I must be competent, successful and popular. __[checkbox,9b.If I am not competent successful or popular then I am bad and worthless.] 9b. If I am not competent, successful or popular then I am "bad" and "worthless." [checkbox,10. I must never feel depressed, anxious or enraged.]10. I must never feel depressed, anxious or enraged. SECOND clue area sub-beliefs [checkbox,1. Everybody should treat everyone else especially me in a fair and considerate manner.]1. Everybody should treat everyone else (especially me) in a fair and considerate manner. __[checkbox,1a. If they act unfairly or inconsiderately they are no good.] a. If they act unfairly or inconsiderately, they are no good. __[checkbox,1b. If they act unfairly or inconsiderately they deserve to be punished.] b. If they act unfairly or inconsiderately, they deserve to be punished. ____[checkbox,1bi. Society or the universe must ensure that they get the punishment they deserve.] i. Society or the universe must ensure that they get the punishment they deserve. [checkbox,2. Other people must not act incompetently or unwisely.]2. Other people must not act incompetently or unwisely. __[checkbox,a. If they act incompetently or unwisely they are worthless idiots.] a. If they act incompetently or unwisely, they are worthless idiots. __[checkbox,b. If they act incompetently or unwisely they should be ashamed of themselves.] b. If they act incompetently or unwisely, they should be ashamed of themselves. __[checkbox,c. If they act incompetently or unwisely they should expect none of the good things in life.] c. If they act incompetently or unwisely, they should expect none of the good things in life. [checkbox,3. Talented people must use their talent.]3. Talented people must use their talent. __[checkbox,a. Everyone must reach their potential.] a. Everyone must reach their potential. __[checkbox,b. People who don't live up to their potential have little or no value as human beings.] b. People who don't live up to their potential have little or no value as human beings. [checkbox,4. Other people must not criticize me.]4. Other people must not criticize me. __[checkbox,a. If they unjustly criticize me they are no good and don't deserve anything good to happen to them.] a. If they unjustly criticize me, they are no good and don't deserve anything good to happen to them. THIRD clue area sub-beliefs [checkbox,1. Things must go the way I want them to go.]1. Things must go the way I want them to go. __[checkbox,1a. I need what I want.] a. I need what I want. ____[checkbox,1ai. It's awful if I don't get what I want.] i. It's awful if I don't get what I want. [checkbox,2. I must constantly worry about life's predicaments.]2. I must constantly worry about life's predicaments. __[checkbox,2a. I must control, avoid or change life's predicaments.] a. I must control, avoid or change life's predicaments. __[checkbox,2b. I must make myself upset over life's predicaments.] b. I must make myself upset over life's predicaments. ____[checkbox,2bi. Making myself upset gives me the power to control avoid or change life's predicaments.] i. Making myself upset gives me the power to control, avoid or change life's predicaments. [checkbox,3. I must avoid, rather than face and deal with life's difficulties and responsibilities.]3. I must avoid, rather than face and deal with, life's difficulties and responsibilities. __[checkbox,3a. I must not be inconvenienced or made uncomfortable.] a. I must not be inconvenienced or made uncomfortable. __[checkbox,3b. I cannot discipline myself.] b. I cannot discipline myself. __[checkbox,3c. I can't stand the present pain that is necessary for future gain.] c. I can't stand the present pain that is necessary for future gain. [checkbox,4. It must be easy to change things that I don't like.]4. It must be easy to change things that I don't like. __[checkbox,4a. Difficulties must not exist.] a. Difficulties must not exist. __[checkbox,4b. I am powerless to change my circumstances.] b. I am powerless to change my circumstances. ____[checkbox,4bi. Any effort to change my circumstances is pointless because it is doomed to fail.] i. Any effort to change my circumstances is pointless because it is doomed to fail. [checkbox,5. Justice fairness equality democracy and other right values must prevail.]5. Justice, fairness, equality, democracy and other "right" values must prevail. __[checkbox,5a. I can't stand it when my values are trodden on.] a. I can't stand it when my values are trodden on. [checkbox,6. All problems must have a perfect solution.]6. All problems must have a perfect solution. __[checkbox,6a. The perfect solution to all problems must be found.] a. The perfect solution to all problems must be found. ____[checkbox,6ai. It's awful if a perfect solution can't be found to my problems or those of people I care about.] i. It's awful if a perfect solution can't be found to my problems (or those of people I care about). [checkbox,7. I must not die prematurely.]7. I must not die prematurely. __[checkbox,7a. I should be able to live forever.] a. I should be able to live forever. __[checkbox,7b. It's terrible that I will one day die and no longer exist.] b. It's terrible that I will one day die and no longer exist. __[checkbox,7c. It's terrible that people I love will one day die and no longer exist.] c. It's terrible that people I love will one day die and no longer exist. [checkbox,8. My life must have meaning and purpose.]8. My life must have meaning and purpose. __[checkbox,8a. If I can't create meaning or purpose for myself the universe or something supernatural must provide it for me.] a. If I can't create meaning or purpose for myself, the universe or something supernatural must provide it for me. [checkbox,9. I must not experience depression rage or anxiety.]9. I must not experience depression, rage or anxiety. __[checkbox,9a. I must not have psychological problems.] a. I must not have psychological problems. ____[checkbox,9ai. I must not be institutionalized.] i. I must not be institutionalized. ____[checkbox,9aii. I couldn't stand to be institutionalized.] ii. I couldn't stand to be institutionalized. ____[checkbox,9aiii. I could never recover if I went crazy.] iii. I could never recover if I went "crazy." ANY other comments or thoughts that have arisen, or understandings that have arisen while you've filled out this form. ANY QUESTIONS that have arisen for you? [textarea,questions and comments,3,70] PRINT a copy of this page for yourself for your own reference before you click on SEND [submit,SEND this Entry][reset,Start Over again] [/form]