[form] Name[text,r_name,30] Email [text,r_email,30] REFRAME Level 3 Lesson 08 Learning How to help others to set Goals REFRAME GOAL WORK You invite the other person to share the TARGET of their Goal work 1. Ask, "WHO is this goal for?" This goal is about… (circle which one) 1. Me and what I need to change - not change - or continue 2. Others what others need to change - not change - continue 3. LIFE and what needs to change - not change - or continue 2. Ask, "WILL your goals involve things within your control to change or resist change?" Setting goals that are under your control means that you have a good chance of reaching them. In the work example, you can probably find out what expectations your supervisor has for the department manager and you can probably meet them. Hopefully, you will feel a sense of satisfaction as you improve your job performance. However, a manager position may not become available or a relative of the company's owner may be appointed to the position despite your best efforts. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Goal work involves two basic roles: Consumer and Supplier. The Consumer is the receiving role. A consumer actions things by ASKING. They are like the Passenger in a bus. 1. What do you want to receive? 2. What are you prepared to receive? 3. What do you not want to receive? 4. Are you prepared to handle not receiving what you want? The Supplier role is the giving role. A supplier actions things by GIVING directing or controlling. They are like the Driver in a bus. 1. What do you want to give? 2. What are you prepared to give? 3. What do you not want to give? 4. Are you prepared to handle not being able to give what you want to give? --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- MORE - LESS - CONTINUE developed into START - STOP - KEEP This approach to goal work is developed from Revelations 2 and 3 in terms of the pattern or structure of how Jesus spoke to each of the Seven Churches of Asia Click Here for an image sheet to print out YOU can start with any of the 3 parts. Which one you start with depends on the issue you intend to set goals for. ALL THREE parts need to be expressed with any one goal to be balanced. check out Ephesians 4:28 to see what I mean. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ASK, "What do you want LESS of?" ASK, "What are you prepared to STOP doing to get less?" Stopping something happening can be a response to a poor strategy you’ve been following; a poor, unhelpful, unhealthy practice or habit. The first step towards a better outcome is to cease following what is causing your upset in the first place. Here's what I need to stop. Get them to share some specific things they are better to STOP Encourage them to describe them in specific behaviour type language, realistic things they will stop doing ASK, "What are some observable clues that will show you (or others watching) you are making progress on this goal?" Get them to describe them as things others could hear or see in or of them. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ASK, "What to you want to have CONTINUE?" ASK, "What are you prepared to KEEP doing or have happening?" Don’t toss everything out! You will need some resources or strategies that have worked in the past, you will have things of value that do not need to stop and that will be valuable for you to begin altering things to your better outcome. ASK What do you need to keep doing until done? Get them to share some specific things to KEEP happening Encourage them to describe them specific behaviour type language - realistic things you will Keep doing. ASK What are some observable clues that will show you (or others watching) you are making progress on this goal. Get them to describe them as things others could hear or see in or of them ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ ASK, "What do you want MORE of?" ASK, "What are you prepared to START doing to get more?" Now that you’ve stopped and assessed your existing resources including a network of supporters, you might think about what you will need to begin or start happening what you will need to bring your strategy to bear. What do you really want to start happening that’s not happening for you now? ASK, "What do you need to start doing?" Get them to share some specific things to START doing? Encourage them to describe them as specific - realistic things they will start doing ASK, "What are some of the observable clues that will show you (or others watching) you are making progress on this goal?" ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- ASSIGNMENT 1. Use the format of MORE - LESS - CONTINUE to write about goals in working with pastoral counselling with others. What I want MORE of... [text,I want more,80] What I am prepared to START doing to get MORE [text,I will start 01,80] [text,I will start 02,80] [text,I will start 03,80] [text,I will start 04,80] [text,I will start 05,80] Here are the clues that I am making progress [text,clues to my start progress 01,80] [text,clues to my start progress 02,80] [text,clues to my start progress 03,80] [text,clues to my start progress 04,80] [text,clues to my start progress 05,80] What I want LESS of... [text,I want Less of,80] What I am prepared to STOP doing to get LESS [text,I will stop 01,80] [text,I will stop 02,80] [text,I will stop 03,80] [text,I will stop 04,80] [text,I will stop 05,80] Here are the clues that I am making progress [text,clues to my stop progress 01,80] [text,clues to my stop progress 02,80] [text,clues to my stop progress 03,80] [text,clues to my stop progress 04,80] [text,clues to my stop progress 05,80] What I want to have CONTINUE is... [text,I want to continue,80] What I am prepared to KEEP doing to have it CONTINUE [text,I will KEEP doing 01,80] [text,I will KEEP doing 02,80] [text,I will KEEP doing 03,80] [text,I will KEEP doing 04,80] [text,I will KEEP doing 05,80] Here are the clues that I am making progress [text,clues I am keeping doing 01,80] [text,clues I am keeping doing 02,80] [text,clues I am keeping doing 03,80] [text,clues I am keeping doing 04,80] [text,clues I am keeping doing 05,80] COMPLETION GOALS NOTE that these are about STARTING on a certain date, KEEPING doing the things needed, then STOPPING when your work is done. It brings ALL three parts together. [checkbox,send copy,checked]Check this box if you wish to receive a copy of your input via email [submit,SEND this Journal][reset,Start Over again] [/form]