[form] Name:[text,r_name,30] Email:[text,r_email,30] This form is to help you in setting up your Goals so that they are timed and specific and measurable. Goal Setting This form is designed for working on ONE goal at a time. You begin by describing your goal in a general way, this will help you get started. DO these goals involve changing things about you? Your goals should not involve changing other people. For example, if you set a goal to have your boyfriend stop criticising you, this is a goal for HIS behaviour, not your own. You have no direct control over his behaviour, although yoiu can tell him how you feel and ask him to stop. If his criticism is a problem for you, your goals might be first to decide whether to continue the relationship that hurts you and, if you decide to stay in the relationship, to learn ways to cope with his criticism and talk with him about it.

Who is this goal for? [list,goalfor] [option,select,Select which is true for your goal,checked] [option,me,this goal is about me and for me] [option,others,this goal is for others to change] [option,onlyme,I realise that only me can work on me so its for me] [option,onlyme2,I cannot set goals for others to work on or change so its for me] [/list]

WILL your goals involve changing things within your control? Similarly, you should not set goals that are not in your control. For example, if somebody else decides job promotions where you work, a goal to become manager of your department is not really under your control. If you want to be manager, you might set goals such as improving your work performance and meeting with your supervisor to clarify what performance standards you need to achieve to be considered for promotion. Setting goals that are under your control means that you have a good chance of reaching them. In the work example, you cna probably find out what expectations your supervisor has for the department manager and you can probably meet them. Hopefully, you will feel a sense of satisfaction as you improve your job performance. However, a manager position may not become available or a relative of the company's owner may be appointed to the position despite your best efforts.

WILL your goals be realistic?

Some goals would be nearly impossible for anybody to achieve. For example, a goal of being a millionaire by the end of the year if you currently have no savings and a job that barely pays the bills is probably not realistic.

Most of us wouldn't set a goal like this, but we often do set goals that are equally unrealistic. For example, some people who are anxious set a goal "never to feel nervous again" Since all people feel nervous sometimes in some situations, this is not a realistic goal. It would be more realistic to set such goals as "To get only as nervous as the average person" "to be able to fly in an aeroplane without having a panic attack" and "to get over a fear of public speaking." These are realistic and achievable goals.

Similarly, it can be unrealistic to stop all negative thoughts. If you want to be less self-critical, for example, you could set a goal such as "To criticise myself less" or "To give myself as much credit for my successes as I give for my mistakes." It is unlikely that you will be able to completely stop being self-critical; all of us are self-critical sometimes - and that can be good for us in small appropriate doses. [list,goalreal] [option,select,Select which is true for you,checked] [option,me,this goal is realistic and is about things within my control] [option,others,this goal is for others to make changes] [option,onlyme,I began thinking unrealistic but now switching to realistic] [/list]

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Timing This is when I intend to get started on this [text,started,60,Date: Time:] This is when it will be completed [text,completed,60,Date: Time:]

To make my goal effective this is how I will anchor it specifically in time [checkbox,hourly]Hourly [text,hours,60] What hours of the day? [checkbox,mornings] Mornings [text,mornings01,60] Which mornings? [checkbox,afternoons] Afternoons [text,afternoons01,60] Which afternoons? [checkbox,evenings] Evenings [text,evenings01,60] Which evenings? [checkbox,daily] Daily [text,daily01,60] Which days? [checkbox,weekly] Once a Week [text,whichday,60] Which day of the week? [checkbox,monthly] Once a Month [text,daymonth,60] Which day of the month?

What will be different in your life with these goals being changed? [checkbox,sociallife] My relationships and social interactions will be different [checkbox,emotions] My moods and feelings will be different [checkbox,behaviours] My behaviours will be different [checkbox,habits] My habits will be different [checkbox,physicalenviron] My surrounding physical environ will be different [checkbox,career] My working life will be different Other things in my life that will be different [textarea,difflife,3,70,This is what'll be different in my life...]