1. WHEN (you identify the triggering or activating
events)
2. I FEEL (you identify the level of impact that
accompanies ANGER)
3. I RESPOND BY (you identify the behaviours or
actions that accompany you feeling ANGER)
4. BECAUSE (you identify the thinking that
accompanies the experience of ANGER)
WHEN
I have frustration
I
have broken a personal rule, value
Other WHENs
I experience FEELINGS associated with Anger
to this level
I RESPOND BY
Attacking the
other physically
Attacking the
other verbally
Attacking the other passive-aggressively
Displacing the attack onto another person, animal, or
object
Withdrawing
aggressively
Recruiting (through propaganda) allies against the other
Other Responses you make
BECAUSE
Someone else has broken my personal rule
My
personal self-esteem is threatened
My
personal view of self is threatened
I overestimate the extent the other person acted
deliberately
I see malicious intent in the motives of others
I see myself as definitely right; other(s) seen as
definitely wrong
I am unable, blocked from seeing the other person's point
of view
I
plot to exact revenge of some kind
Other Becauses
Please comment further those things you feel I need to
know to understand you and your experience of Anger?