FH Grief - Valuing and understanding
Reacting to a significant loss
Grieving
- Is a normal reaction to a significant loss
- Takes time - the length of which varies for each person
As you move through the process of grief, you may experience much of the following….
- A state of shock, disbelief, denial
- Expression of a variety of emotions, e.g. tears, anger sad
- Depression and a sense of loneliness
- Physical symptoms of distress, e.g. lack of sleep
- Panic
- A sense of guilt about the loss and look for forgiveness
- Inability to return to usual activities - the past had it’s faults, the future may not be so bad.
- Letting go the images of the past and development of new life patterns
- Gradually being to live with the loss. We recognise the loss, but are no longer disturbed by it.
Some things to do when moving through grief stages
- Listen to yourself and give yourself the time that you need
- Take your feelings seriously and allow yourself to experience them fully.
- Accept and receive the suffering, the hurt, the caring of others. Talk to a counselor.
- Have a plan for each day, one task, one goal, one day at a time.
- Conserve any respite from grief and allow such moments to accumulate.
- Recall and build on the successes, the high points, the happy memories of the past.
- Allow yourself to appreciate the pain as part of life.
- Turn your blocks into stepping stones, allowing the kicks in life to push you forward rather than back.
- Seek out and develop creative activities or outlets, not just "busyness or work"
- Deliberately relinquish and let go of the loved one.
- Picture yourself entering into your daily activities with ease, interest and serenity.
- Don’t expect too much and don’t be too hard on yourself. Use all the resources of your own inner being but set realistic goals.
- Form or join a grief group and facilitate depth and meaning in the relationships or groups you are in.
- Share your learnings and experiences and minister to the needs of others.
Find strength, hope and comfort in faith.
- Faith in God
- Inspiration of every kind.
What is helpful to you is what matters
When you are sorrowful, look again in your heart and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
The Prophet
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